As an obligatory act in Islam, marriage is very important. Moreover, it is acknowledged to look one-half of a Muslim’s belief. Marriage is one of the most adored Sunnah in Islam. It is because it is our dearest Prophet (SAWW) also married and motivated the others to do as well. Both the parties to marriage are given certain rights. The rights of husband in Islam would be our topic here.
There are several verses in the Holy Quran associated with the significance of Marriage in Islam. The Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran:
“O Humans revere your Guardian-Lord, Who created you from a single person, created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights”.(Quran 4:1)
Rights of wife over husband in islam
Marriage is an act that pleases the Almighty Allah. Because, it is by His teachings that husband and wife love each other and support each other. In this way, they both do efforts in achieving Paradise, proceed the human race. And nurture their children to serve as true followers of Allah. Allah Almighty proclaimed a few rights of the wives and the husbands upon each other.
They have to obey to live a joyous life in this world as well as in the hereafter. In this article, we will mention a few Rights of Husband in Islam that the wife has to fulfill according to the Holy Quran and Sunnah.
Allah Almighty informs His people in the Holy Quran that every individual partner has a few rights over the other one. However, the husband has one certain right over his wife which she does not possess over him. In the Holy Quran it is quoted in the verse in these words:
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them”(Quran, 2:228)
Following are a few rights of husband in Islam:
Respect and Obedience
It is a basic right of a husband over his wife to fulfill his rights. But, only as long as he is not in breaking of the commands of the Almighty Allah, Messenger of Allah (SAW), and the comprehensive teachings of Islam. In the natural system of things, Allah (SWT) has created men as the protectors and managers of the women.
It is one of the many Rights of Wife Over Husband in Islam and obligatory responsibility to look after women and provide for them physically as well as financially. Allah (SWT) stated in the Holy Quran:
“Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them excel others, and because they spend out of their property.”(Quran 4:34)
Therefore, there is a particular respect level in the relationship where men are the guardians of women. This verse also informs the wife to be appreciative of her husband and to always be obedient when it appears to the matters of family, children, money, etc. Moreover, she should practice patience and fulfillment with her husband.
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Normally, a wife has the responsibility to handle things inside the house. While the husband handles all the physically difficult duties outside the house and ensures that they are taken care of. Regardless, a man who assists his wife with the house chores is not to be recognized as a weakling.
Women should organize and maintain the house by making meals for themselves. And by attempting other home responsibilities all for the sake of Allah Almighty. The teachings of Islam suggests that the husband undertakes such tasks with compassion and sympathy and the wife should rest her hopes and desires in Allah alone.
Muslim wife has to ensure her husband’s secrets, privacy, respect, and prestige. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:
“The wife is the guardian of the house of her husband and his children.”(Al-Bukhari)
The wife also has to maintain her husband’s prosperity, children, finance, possession, and other factors of his home, as much as possible. The Almighty Allah states in the Holy Quran:
“…So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard…”(Quran, 4:34)
Barring anyone who the Husband dislikes
One of the rights a husband has over his wife is that the wife has to not let anyone enter into their home whom the husband does not appreciate or recommend. Even in the final sermon of the Holy Prophet (SAW), he put light upon the rights of men and women. Additionally, he informed us that the wives should not let any individual into their homes that the husband does not like. In the Holy Quran, Allah Almighty says:
“Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them excel others, and because they spend out of their property (for the support of women.)”(Quran, 4:34)
Affection and Benevolence
To preserve an environment of liking and strength for her spouse and her children, she has to express appreciation and friendliness to the husband. Moreover, she should also show affection by imparting the house environment with impressions of love, happiness, and sympathy. Muslim wife must have a nice attitude with her husband. Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“The best of your women is the prolific, the affectionate, the chaste, the endeared of her family, the humble to her husband, fortified against other than him, heeding to what he says, and obeying his requests, offering herself to him when alone though not in an unabashed manner like his.”Hadith
Availability of Wife for Her Husband
The wife should spend proper time on her appearance, to captivate the husband and react to his sexual desires. This is a relatively effective way of attracting the man to his wife and enhancing the affection between both of them.
She should give him the means of appreciating her beauty and fulfill his desires by the Sharia. Hence, it will help him to resist getting into the traps of prohibited desires. In the Holy Quran, the Almighty Allah Almighty states that:
“Your women are a tilth for you (to cultivate) so go to your tilth when you like and do good beforehand for yourselves and fear Allah, and know that you will (one day) meet Him. Give glad tidings to believers,”(Quran 2:223)
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No Sharing of Private Matters with Others
A wife should never let others get into their matters. A wife should prevent discussing the affairs of her home and about the personal matters with her husband.
Good and Kind Treatment of the Husband
Just as the wife appreciates the right of kind attitude from her husband, the husband also appreciates the right to obtain satisfactory and lenient treatment from his wife. If a husband and wife don’t have mutual kindness and honor for each other, there can be no understanding or compassion. And this will ultimately end in the decaying of the marriage.
Both the husband and the wife should implement and develop understanding, sympathy, and kindness in their relationship every day. Moreover, they should work towards building a strong and comfortable atmosphere for their family and themselves.
Taking Care of the Husband’s Treasure
The other fundamental Husband Rights in Marriage is for a wife to take care of her husband’s wealth and pride. Moreover, she may not leave her house except she earns consent from her husband. As the Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran in Surah An-Nisa verse 34:
“So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guarded.”Surah An-Nisa verse 34
Ask the Husband’s Permission Before Sunnah Fasting
If a wife wishes to perform Ramadan fasting, she doesn’t require permission from her husband as the law of Ramadan fasting is necessary. But, if a wife leaves a Ramadan fasting for no lawful reason, it is haram. If her husband prohibits her, she may not accept it. Because we may not fulfill others’ and sin to Al-Khaliq. But if the wife wishes to do sunnah fasting, she has to ask for approval from her husband. Because our beloved Muhammad (SAW) said,
“A wife must not do fasting (sunnah) while her husband is in his side except by the permission of her husband.”(Narrated by Al-Bukhari number 5195 and Muslim number 1026)
Islam is a religion based on equality, righteousness, fairness, love, and kindness. Therefore, it is not shocking that Islam commands both the husband and wife to practice their rights and independence in marriage. These rights help to strengthen and beautify the entire foundation of marriage itself. But, only if a wife attends these rights correctly and according to the commandments of Allah (SWT).
Those were a few of the fundamental Rights of a Husband in Marriage to his wife that nurtures a marriage. A happy marriage is pleasing to Allah that will bring joy to this world and the hereafter. A women should fulfill all of the above rights to strive for the happiness of Allah Almighty alone. And with complete devotion and faith in Him instead of yearning for some particular type of comeback or treatment from the husband.
By directing towards Allah with the husband as a means the wife will obtain the happiness of her Lord. Even if her husband is unsatisfactory in personality and belief. May Allah Almighty provide us the energy to live our lives according to the teachings of the Holy Quran and Sunnah of the beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW)! Ameen
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